Positive Vibes Only?
Before you haul off and hit me, that title was intended to incite a little bit of rage. And breathe….
While spending some time in edit mode on copy herein on this site, I wanted to be sure it was conveyed that this content is in no way intended to be about Positive Vibes only, or putting lipstick on the pig, or perpetuating positivity in a forced, insincere or contrived way that doesn’t acknowledge and honor everyone where they are on their journey. In short, no Toxic Positivity allowed.
But… for some people on this planet, there is a sincere belief that in our gender roles or other assigned societal norms, that being nice and positive is part of the “uniform”.
Newsflash: You don’t always have to be good. What is good anyway? So many adjectives in the dictionary and we choose good as the right one?
About a year ago, I read a book called Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott. Aside from the inner “bad girl” that lurks within me, Ms. Elliott’s book gave me permission to acknowledge, love, and flex my darkness. As her book title states, “Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)”. By getting in touch with the dark, shadowy, “repressed, tabooed, and often unwanted aspects of ourselves, we are able to discover and step into our power and finally live the life we deserve.”
In hindsight, reading this book was a considerable catalyst for me. I began to look at the things that I thought I should shun or hate or disown that are inherent parts of my psyche, largely around sexuality, my wants and needs in relationships, a voracious curiosity about everything, and a general need to know, touch, taste, smell and…, I digress.
Rather than repress or deny these parts of me, I embraced them. I saw these as unique aspects of my psyche, character, and personality… How I show up for what turns me on, makes me happy, keeps me motivated, smiling, honest, floating, content…. and it was all thanks to this novel idea of radical self-acceptance of the kinky, shadowy side of my personality.
The more I revealed about myself, honestly, to myself, the deeper I wanted to delve in. Suddenly, the beautiful melodramatic and lurid aspects of my personality didn’t seem so shocking. I chose to own it all, not disown it. Not be afraid to desire it, indulge in it, share in it. Why hide it away?
Energy flows where thoughts go.
Question: If you are denying yourself of your own awesomeness- how will other people and things appear in your life?
Answer: They, too, will deny you of your awesomeness.
So, unless you are doing something criminal, why deny yourself of your desires, and why refuse to share your authenticity with the world?
The best way to get started on your journey of embracing your authenticity is in understanding, connecting with, and loving who you are at your core and being clear on what is important to you. Check out the 7 Day Mindset Reset ebook to get started. And definitely check out Carolyn Elliott.
