Do the work. Trust the process?
Recently, a friend told me I am full of shit when it comes to what I chronicle here on my blog and play out in my life. I laughed. Spoken like someone in denial of how their thoughts and beliefs shape their reality. Can’t say I fault that person’s ability to suspend disbelief when it comes to what I voice. About 3 years ago, I would’ve, and in fact, did, tell myself that I am full of shit. I asked her, why am I full of shit when it comes to getting a handle on my thoughts and belief system? This isn’t magic, it’s resilience, which I think is more powerful than magic.
Since I landed on this not-so-novel idea that I am the creator of my reality, I have been a willing and unwilling test subject to see how my thoughts and beliefs affect my reality. In the beginning, it was easy because I was always allowing my old story to victimize me. But as I delved deeper into my new story, who I am, how I show up, what’s important to me, and so on, did I begin to see things shift. The work has to be done every day and some days within every moment dependent upon what could trigger me. When I feel triggered by something butting up against “my stuff”, the ability to catch it quickly is like muscle memory.
Case in point: you wake up every day with choices. You choose which clothes you will wear, how you will style your hair, what to eat, to exercise, to run the red light, and so on. You also choose how you respond to an aggressive driver, a rude clerk, or the exact opposite, friendly people. More importantly, you choose the narrative that is running in your brain. What is the narrative? It is an ongoing loop comprised of years of compounding beliefs and stories you tell yourself based on your experiences and acculturation. Sometimes this loop is a reel of the happy, successful, prosperous version of you. Other times, not so much, and it is like watching a movie on the Victim’s Network. Dependent upon your state of mind and emotions, you may choose to run with the Vicitim’s Network movie or the Reel of happy, successful, prosperous you.
As a result, sometimes your choices aren’t healthy ones, and then maybe after responding to a trigger out of ego, you resent yourself. Why is that? More than likely you are stuck in a mindset or story that has you living out a plot that you are just sick of, but you don’t know how to find the Emergency Exit and get to the version of the life you desire.
Do you believe you have the ability to see your old story in a new light? You aren’t chained to that narrative. Your choices are keeping you frozen to that narrative! Why choose the Victim Network when there are so many other more fulfilling realities to indulge in and incorporate into your life.
While we can’t go back and change the past, we can most certainly change the way we view the past. I asked a client recently who is stuck and playing out old narratives, why do you continue to allow your past, a place that is no longer here, to continue to haunt your reality? To allow yourself to fall prey to experiences that happened decades ago? His response, because it is what I know. Whoa. That hit me hard. He is so right! Being on autopilot and living the unhealthy narrative and the stories burned into our psyche are what we play out. So how do we get to the realities we desire?
This is where the work comes in. And honestly, it really isn’t work when you understand a relatively simple process to get you there. The work is in managing your thoughts. To get started, check out the free ebook, and in 7 days, you will begin to experience a new way of seeing the world within you and around you. When the old story pops up, beat it over the head with your new story, and affirm, affirm, affirm.
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Getting back to my friend telling me I’m full of shit. She said I was in denial about people’s reality. On the contrary. THIS IS NOT ABOUT DENIAL. It is about self-awareness. I am not saying what happened in your past didn’t happen to you or that something wasn’t horrible. Nobody is discounting your experiences or feelings, but if your past is no longer here, why be a victim to it? And if you are struggling that much, then you need more than my little blog and an ebook on how to Rewire your mindset in 7 days. Please seek out the resources you need to work through painful memories and blocks that keep you stuck in a less than an abundant place. Your old story is what is telling you that you aren’t worth abundance, love, all that you desire. Close that book hard!
As you’re doing the work, and swimming into the deeper waters of self-discovery and self-awareness, can you trust the process?
I intend that you will see that you are worthy of a new story. A story with your preferred happy ending. Whatever that may be. You will get there if you choose it.
