Don’t let it Eff with Your Flow
There are always inevitabilities in life….taxes, death, an ex will reappear when you least expect it, etc. There is a truthy contrast I coach and share with clients so they remember that in life a little rain must fall, but it doesn't have to throw off your mindset and mindfulness flow.
You could be absolutely vigilant in your thought management, affirming your ideal outcomes and flipping any old stories that don't serve you. You may even be at a place that you have seamlessly incorporated mindset management into your every day and it is integrated into your personal narrative. You're proud of yourself
Then... wait for it…. Triggered.
Triggers happen. And will happen again. But how you approach and manage the trigger builds resilience. It is all in how you respond to the trigger and build your mindfulness muscle. For years, I read the mindfulness books, watched and listened to gurus on the topic. Elements made it through and incorporated but were still largely lacking because I was still looking outside of myself for validation and confirmation. I didn't realize in most scenarios, that external validation seeking kept me stuck.
A client and I both recently experienced triggers. As I was working through mine, I said to my mirror reflection, "why to let this fuck with your flow?" During the client's coaching session, I asked her the same question. In my case, I had a doctor's appointment. Any medical appointments once caused me great anxiety. In the process of getting dental work, I had to learn how to manage my white coat syndrome so I could get the necessary care. In this 6 month commitment to getting my smile in order, I got to the root of what caused the white coat syndrome trigger. This understanding was further supported when I discussed it with my dentist. What a gift that medical professionals are open to talking through fears. When I identified the fear, I got really clear on the contributing factors to see the irrational, the old narrative, and value statements with askew perceptions a.k.a. I saw where my subconscious beliefs about my worthiness of good health were stuck. They were stuck in old stories and how I perceived my worthiness of having good health and longevity.
In the case of a new client, she is holding longstanding beliefs about not feeling supported by men, all seemingly relating to an experience she had when she was a teenager and a trust was violated. This experience is a perfect example of ensuring you are seeking a balance of professional support to adopt methods to help you soothe emotional scars. But in speaking with her and learning more about that experience, it was quite clear how she emotionally, and now subconsciously, processes that experience and how men show up for her in her life. We focused on affirmations that have her recognizing she is safe and secure and supported. Once she started believing that to be true, then she began to see how powerful, wonderful and deserving she is of all that she desires.
All day long you have thoughts, beliefs, anecdotes, songs from 2003, commercials, favorite movie quotes, your boss yelling at you...whatever….bouncing around in your head. Thousands and thousands of thoughts clutter your gray matter all day long and are jockeying for position to be the most important thing on your mind. There are days that you just may be too tired to even meditate, be present, imagine what you want in your life outside of the auto-pilot and day-to-day noise.
But you do have a choice. Which thoughts do you believe? How will you allow the world to show up for you? Don't let anything, especially your own limiting beliefs, fuck with your flow.
It is time to get clear on who you are and what's important to you. Check out the free 7-day mindset reset eBook. I promise your triggers won't have a chance.
