Be your own BFF
Early on in this journey, a few truths were evident, but none more so than how I was not being my own BFF, my own best friend. The seeking of validation and confirmation of who I am and my value was so focused on what others thought of me and what was happening outside of me. Further, this awareness had me realizing I was not showing up for myself, in my authenticity. While many facets of my personality were certainly genuine, I was showing up as the nice girl, the good girl, the agreeable girl, and not always speaking my 100% truth girl, not drawing my line in the sand of where I begin and end girl. From my psychology studies days, there are terms for this. And label away, but at the end of the day, I was not claiming nor owning my individual sovereignty.
Along this journey of mine, there have been many gurus, books, websites, quizzes, and…. I read, studied, consulted, confided. None more resonate than those of Neville Goddard and self-concept. I am CERTAIN that I read this exact concept from a number of other sources, but it was how he positioned it that it finally clicked and all began to fall in line.
So how do you become your own BFF?
Let’s use this example since most can relate, if you are using a dating app, you complete a profile - you share details about yourself and details of what you are seeking in a partner. (are you being truthful? that’s for another article) You are typing up your bio and specifics you wish to share and reveal yourself as an ideal partner. You share what you seek in an ideal partner- very specifically in many instances. So you are clear on what you want and who you want to attract. Manifesting and attracting what you want in life is the same thing.
It starts with knowing yourself. Who are you? How are you showing up for yourself every day? How are you being a friend to yourself?
Here’s what I did to become my own BFF. Plain and simple.
Self-concept: Get clear on your inevitable truths. I AM statements- these are the framework of defining your value and worth. Using I am for the unconditional aspects of your life is powerful. I AM reaffirms these facts internally, making it easier to know definitively who you are, and starts the creation of it.
Here are some common examples: I am beautiful. I am intelligent. I am wealthy. I am sexy. I am a star employee. Once you are clear on this, take them up a notch. Here are some of my personal favorites: I am worthy of everything I desire. I am the goddess of my reality. I am always the best version of myself. I am the woman who gets everything she wants.
How does that feel? Some people are easily able to write down a page full of I AM statements. If you are struggling with this, it’s a good thing, actually. You can see where you are getting hung up in old stories and beliefs. Write the I AM statements to align with what you seek in a best friend and be that best friend to yourself.
Keep completing this exercise as often as you like, until you feel you have your list complete. Go back and review it often. Be sure to check out this article on getting clear on the basics of manifesting techniques.
Important: You don’t have to explain why you are the way you are. Only that it is your truth.
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